Cons: Sex – scarce, unsatisfying, No foreplay EVER. We don’t talk. We don’t go out. He doesn’t hug or caress me. He never compliments me. He doesn’t invite me to see his friends, nor family. We don’t laugh. We don’t joke. We don’t play. He just sits there at his computer… endlessly. We don’t eat together. It’s like he doesn’t need me. He doesn’t yearn for me… Pros: Security. How much have you been willing to sacrifice for the sake of ?comfort’ and ?security’ in your life? Lorelei can write as many lists as she likes… but what will she DO?