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[cat123]

Messaging performers on facebook... Totally stalkerish and creepy, or ok if you're sensible and non-fangirly about it?! It's definately better than 'adding' them as a friend, but still... too much?

My reason is this: I really like one of the Wicked swings and miss her on stage! I want to know if she knows when she might be on next. I would have asked her today at SD but she wasn't actually there.

[Weez]

This has cropped up in discussion before but damned if I can remember which thread. XD The consensus seemed to be that if you are respectful and polite, there's nothing wrong with it. After all, it is a social networking site. The worst that can realistically happen is they just won't reply to your message. If you're comfortable with it, and capable of keeping to boundaries, then go ahead.

[Beanie88]

This has cropped up in discussion before but damned if I can remember which thread. XD The consensus seemed to be that if you are respectful and polite, there's nothing wrong with it. After all, it is a social networking site. The worst that can realistically happen is they just won't reply to your message. If you're comfortable with it, and capable of keeping to boundaries, then go ahead.

Think it was in the fanmail discussion. I don't see much of a problem with asking them questions. If they are on facebook and haven't made their profiles completely private then they can't really complain. As has been said the worst they can do is just ignore you.

[Huge Zoe Birkett Fan]

yea i think messaging them is ok
ive got a few performers as my friends on facebook such as Zoe but it was them that added me so i'm not complaining hehe   
i did add someone who i actually have become good friends with but i think that was just luck
i've messaged a few people before and they didn't seem to mind

[Lynette]

Mr/Mrs Bored - go find something to do. The previous post is in line with the original enquiry and par for the course on an enthusiastic theatre site.

[lizziett]

Messaging them is OK, but some don't like to reply because it gives you access, even if minimal, to their profile. It just depends on the person really

[fabala87]

i actually sent a message to a cast member of a show enquiring as to whether they were performing on a certain date. I just simply said that i hoped they didn't mind me contacting them like this, they were totally free to ignore the msg. they replied with a lovely message and answered my question. and that was the end of our contact! i think there is absolutely nothing wrong about contacting them if they haven't made any effort to hide their identity and you contact them in a nice polite manner and don't expect anything more to come of it.

[cat123]

Thanks guys I messaged her, we'll see. And if not, I'll just have to SD again and ask heer face to face!!