Synopsis Falling in love with the captain of the football team at an all-male Melbourne High School in the ‘70’s was never going to be universally popular. But for Tim Conigrave being young and gay in Australia was exciting but uncharted territory. Press material says, "Holding the Man is an achingly funny and heartbreaking true life story about the relationship between Tim and John Caleo. This multi-award winning play explores the highs and lows of their remarkable partnership and is a celebration that speaks across generations, sexual preference and culture." The term 'Holding the Man' comes from Australian Football and refers to a transgression that incurs a penalty. Running time 2hrs 40mins Studio 1
Holding the Man, adapted by Tommy Murphy from the best-selling memoir by Australian Timothy Conigrave, received its UK premiere at Trafalgar Studios on Tuesday (4 May 2010, previews from 23 April), starring Kath and Kim's Jane Turner alongside original cast members Guy Edmonds and Matt Zeremes.
Falling in love with the captain of the football team at an all-male Melbourne high school in the 1970s was never going to be universally accepted. Holding the Man follows the highs and lows in the relationship between Conigrave, who found being young and gay exciting but uncharted territory, and John Caleo, his lifelong lover of 15 years.
According to the press release, it’s an “an achingly funny and heartbreaking true life story ... that speaks across generations, sexual preference and culture”. Both men were diagnosed with HIV in the mid-1980s and died of Aids-related illnesses, Caleo in 1992 and Conigrave in October 1994.
Simon Edge on Whatsonstage.com (four stars) - “With four of the six-strong cast performing quick-change routines on a bare, functional set, it's a fast-moving, wittily compiled piece … The mood darkens in the second half as Tim and John receive their shattering diagnoses on the same day and then fret over who infected whom and how to tell their uncomprehending but subtly differentiated sets of parents (both played by Burke and Turner) … It’s no surprise that the final deathbed scene is a tear-jerker. That it succeeds in being so when centred entirely on a skeletal puppet standing in for the doomed John is a touch more remarkable.”
Dominic Maxwell in The Times (three stars) - “If you think you’ve heard this one before - the one about the young gay lovers and the first wave of the HIV virus - this lively Australian drama has other ideas … Guy Edmonds as Tim and Matt Zeremones as John convey beautifully their respective self- involvement and self-containment. Jane Turner, from the sitcom Kath and Kim, switches from high comedy to high seriousness in a heartbeat, and the rest of the supporting cast - Simon Burke, Oliver Farnworth and Anna Skellern - also excel.”
Michael Billington in the Guardian (three stars) - “For all the virtuosity of David Berthold's production and the play's success in its native Australia, I found the experience more theatrical than dramatic, and evasive about several key issues … The play displays a refreshing humour. There's a funny account of a GaySoc student meeting in the 1970s when Tim, noticing a number of actors, is wryly told: 'There is some crossover with the drama society.' … While the play undeniably works, it leaves much unsaid about the sexual tensions in Australian society.”
Sarah Hemming in the Financial Times (three stars) - “A moving story, then, and a true one … A versatile cast (led by Jane Turner) switches costumes jauntily to present schoolmates, perplexed parents, gauche students and ageing drinkers in a gay bar … There are lovely, gradually deepening performances from Guy Edmonds as the flamboyant, flirtatious Tim and Matt Zeremes as the gentle, loyal John … The first half sets Tim and John’s tentative steps into a relationship and into society against a breezy, whistle-stop tour of the 1970s and 1980s … At the end, as John struggles for life and Zeremes replicates his agonising attempts to inhale, something remarkable happens in the theatre: you suddenly realise that the whole audience is holding its breath for him.”
Fiona Mountford in the Evening Standard (four stars) - “A wrenchingly moving love story … We watch Tim and John (Guy Edmonds and Matt Zeremes, both terrific) meet as teenagers at an astonishingly understanding Catholic boys’ school and follow them and their changing hairdos through university and sexual experimentation, until the spectre of Aids starts to hover and the mood of the evening shifts markedly … the superb four-strong supporting ensemble, including Kath and Kim’s Jane Turner, fare just as well in the bad times as the good.”
In 1995, a memoir was published in Australia charting the love affair between two Melbourne schoolboys whose relationship endured into adulthood. Both fell victim to Aids, with the author, Tim Conigrave, surviving his lover, John Caleo, by two years. The book became a posthumous bestseller under the title Holding the Man, a term derived from Australian football.
A decade or so later, with those early ravages of Aids a fading memory for gay communities, young playwright Tommy Murphy turned the memoir into an award-winning stage play that enjoyed four separate runs in Sydney. Director David Berthold's production now arrives at the Trafalgar Studios complete with the two original leads, Guy Edmonds and Matt Zeremes. Joining the cast is Jane Turner, best known as Kath from the sitcom Kath & Kim, who was a friend of Conigrave. By weird chance she was present when he first met Caleo and knew several of the 15 or so people she plays here.
Although the evening is arranged in two halves, this is essentially the standard three-act drama into which so many gay lives were cruelly chopped in the Eighties and Nineties: closetry, liberation and tragedy. On one level, it's a dated story that tells us nothing we didn't know already about the cruel impact of the epidemic on "fast-lane gays", as Edmonds' self-centred, outspoken Tim calls himself, as well as those like the shyer, self-effacing John who only ever wanted sex with the same partner.
But if the age of the first-night audience is any guide, there is also a hunger on the part of a new generation of gay men to hear those stories for the first time. Murphy's robust adaptation, with its uncompromising approach to sex and sickness, its black comedy and its pathos, has a simple authenticity that contrasts refreshingly with the elaborate narrative tropes of the once-definitive Angels in America.
With four of the six-strong cast performing quick-change routines on a bare, functional set, it's a fast-moving, wittily compiled piece that takes us from a school-camp circle-jerk to a cringy Gay Soc meeting and a gruesome bar where the stylised conversation – "Tee hee, ha ha, Babs, Judy, vagina, Rock Hudson, dizzy bitch, fist" – hits home with an awful accuracy. Simon Burke, Oliver Farnworth and Anna Skellern offer strong support in their multiple parts, but Turner effortlessly steals all the early scenes, showing a wider comic versatility than her TV role allows.
The mood darkens in the second half as Tim and John receive their shattering diagnoses on the same day and then fret over who infected whom and how to tell their uncomprehending but subtly differentiated sets of parents (both played by Burke and Turner). Part of the power of the material stems from the bitterly self-critical way in which Conigrave has written his own character. But the hurt he inflicts on his partner pales in comparison with John's callous father wrangling over his dying son's will and then harvesting his possessions into a black bin-bag before his body is cold.
Edmonds and Zeremes are utterly convincing as the mismatched but eternally committed lovers, veering from mutual recrimination to resigned passion as the killer virus stalks and consumes them.
It’s no surprise that the final deathbed scene is a tear-jerker. That it succeeds in being so when centred entirely on a skeletal puppet standing in for the doomed John is a touch more remarkable.
SEE THIS PLAY! Move it to Shaftesbury Avenue Ambassador Group, and put some money behind it. - Richard Voyce
14 May 10
Excellent, loved it! - Damien
09 May 10
This is a stage adaptation of an autobiographical book, published posthumously, by an Australian man who died of AIDS. Seeing it now, 15 years after the final events it portrays adds a historical perspective to a very personal story. It¡¯s a a love story which has two very different halves ¨C the first a very funny and rather charming tale of a 15-year relationship from teens to late 20¡äs and the second the very sad and deeply moving story of the final years until one died of AIDS eight years later. You can tell that Matt Zeremes as Tim and Guy Edmonds as John have played these roles on-and-off for four years because they seem to inhabit their characters and have real chemistry between them. Four other actors (Kath & Kim¡¯s Jane Turner, musicals man Simon Burke, Oliver Farnsworth and Anna Skellern) play all of the other roles ¨C up to 15 each ¨C with huge versatility and brio. Jane Turner, in particular, can change characters of different sex and age with just a quick wig change! David Berthold¡¯s fast paced staging allows them to cover much ground whilst still developing the characters and without trivialising the story. Though I haven¡¯t read Timothy Conigrave¡¯s book, he was clearly very frank and seems to have been rather hard on himself. Tommy Murphy¡¯s play tells a very moving, sad and timeless love story with much humour and little sentimentality and still manages to look back to this extraordinary period in social history objectively. You¡¯ll laugh out loud at the outrageous and often rude frankness, but you¡¯ll probably shed a tear in the end. I found it a very rewarding evening in the theatre. As always, the WOS Q&A was an added bonus.
- Gareth James
07 May 10
A great play with amazing acting. It is very funny and moves very quickly. I think I need to buy the script as I missed so of the jokes! I want to see it again. - Paul
07 May 10
There is no doubting this is both a funny and moving play with some fine performances, especially from Guy Edmonds and Matt Zenemes. The first act skips through the early years and contains much humour. The second act is much more poignant and often quite sombre. If I have one criticism, its that the show is so heavily focussed on Tim Conigrave. I'd have liked to have seen more about John Caleo and the struggles he must have faced. But its a small gripe and this is a show which deserves its place in the West End and is a must see. - Paul
07 May 10
What an excellent production from Australia and that's 2 good ones on the West End as Priscilla is also from Down under. This play as funny, poignant and caring and recommend it to everyone. - Joe Spiteri
06 May 10
A remarkable piece of drama; very funny initially and ultimately heartbreaking, the use of puppets and quick changes add to the originality and dynamism of the production. Despite being genuinely moving, never once does this degenerate into simple mawkishness. All the performances are terrific. At the interval I thought this would maybe only appeal to gay audiences; by the end of it I was convinced it should be seen by anyone with a heart. Highly recommended. - ajh
05 May 10
Saw the Brisbane production in 2008 which had the same 2 leads. Worth seeing. - Alyssa
Opened 29 Sep 1930, on site of the Old Ship Tavern. Famous for the Whitehall Farces (Brian Rix) which started in 1950. 608 seats. Member of the Society of London Theatre. An [ATG] member. Closed after the run of Abigail's Party July 12th 2003. The 377 seat Trafalgar Studio opens early 2004. A further 100 seat studio space in the pipeline. Renamed from the Whitehall to Trafalgar Studios.
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